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Our loved ones lost during guardianship/conservatorship.......


J.P. (Speck) Manire
Member Kim Manire's Father in Law

 

"We lost Speck (JP) Sunday morning at 9:16. His breathing got more and more shallow, and his breaths farther and farther apart. He only had morphine 4 times since they admitted him, a week ago last Wed. He passed with no pain, although you could tell that he was have a hard time breathing. I hate that we have only gotten to see him 6 times in the last 4 years, but this last week and a half we got to spend night and day with him.

For this I am thankful."
 

 

 

Forest McKee Blackwell
Member Jean McKee Blackwell's Son
October 26, 1964 - February 20, 2008

Forest McKee Blackwell passed away on February 20, 2008 at the young age of 43. Forest leaves behind his loving mother Jean McKee Blackwell of Tucson, his beloved 15 year old son Cameron Joseph McKee Blackwell of Atlanta, and his precious 12 year old daughter Emily Jean Blackwell of Atlanta as well as many other loving friends and family. Forest is preceded in death by his father Jerry Eugene Blackwell and his son Collin Nicholas McKee Blackwell. Forest was born in El Reno, Oklahoma where his proud parents took him to Puerto Rico for the first 2 years of his life. The family then relocated to the Tucson area where Forest grew up and developed his love of the outdoors and his mother's love of dogs. Forest moved to California as a young adult and married Elizabeth Blackwell. They were blessed with three beautiful children who Forest cherished. Forest spent many years riding horses with his family. He would recall the family trail rides as a time where the best talking occurred. Forest considered fatherhood to be his greatest achievement. His son Cameron remembers him as a Dad who would give someone the shirt off his back or cover the fare for a stranger on the bus who was down on his luck. Forest’s daughter Emily remembers her Daddy as a faithful confidante and a masterful storyteller who enjoyed entertaining her.

Forest will never be forgotten and will live on forever in the beautiful eyes of his children and the warm heart of his mother.  


 

Daniel Gross
Member Dee King's Dad
November 30, 1919 – November 6, 2008

Lifelong NY resident, WWII vet, teacher, worker, inventor... 

On a visit to daughter in Ct. (2005) became embroiled in the Ct. Probate System where the judge, denied him his constitutional rights, although he begged for them. 

The judge went on to give Dan to a conservator who had him locked up in a nursing home, even though it was not the highest level for him, had him forced medications, refused him his own doctors, his own choice of lawyers, prevented him from seeking aid of any advocacy groups, denied his right to visitors, family, stripped him of all assets, put his house up for sale - all his worldly possessions disappeared. 

In 2006, due to the efforts of some incredible  high-minded people, they fought for, and won the freedom of this 86 year old man.

In 2007 the legislators changed the law to protect the rights of others (Bill #1432)

Those we have the utmost gratitude for are Atty. Veronica Halpern (Htfd. Legal Aid), Rick Green of the Hartford Courant, Atty.John Peters, who worked pro-bono to free Dan, Atty. Marilyn Denney (Htfd. Legal Aid), Eric Zager of Fox 61 News, Royal Stark of Quinnipiac Law School and the students who helped, Tom Berrant of CTLegal Project and others, Dan's friends, and finally the outstanding judge of Superior Court, Judge Gormley, who restored justice and freedom to Dan Gross.

We thank God above all and for putting these wonderful people in our path to overcome this perverse system that preys on the vulnerable.

Dan said this was always about the money--he was right.

He also said, "Never give up"--we won't!

 



Stephanie Hordijuk
May 11, 1912- Oct 28, 2006
Member
Oksana Hordijuk’s Mother


My Grandparents often traveled from the Ukraine to the United States , and on one visit, my Mother, Stephanie, was born in NYC.

When the war started, my Mother was living in Bratislava , Czechoslovakia .  The Red Army was coming and was roughly  90 miles away.  My parents packed a suitcase and escaped, taking the last cattle car before the bombs fell.   (My father was in the Ukrainian army and held a high position in the Ministry and the family would have been sent to Siberia .)

That was the first time my Mother lost all her treasured things.  It took one year to travel to Bremenhaven , Germany to get a boat that my Grandfather had arranged for the family to go to the US where my Mother was a US citizen.  We had very little to eat and looked like we had come from a camp.

My parents started again in a walk up apartment. My Mom was going to night school and working in a sweat shop making flowers for hats.  My father, an engineer, washed dishes until he could get an engineering job.

My Mother was very good with hats and finally worked for Miss Mary.  At that time, women wore hats and Miss Mary’s hats ended up in Bergdorf Goodman’s in NYC and many fine stores.  One of Miss Mary’s clients was Jackie Kennedy. 

My Mother had a hard life, she worked hard for her money and saved what she could.  When she got older, my ex-brother wanted her in assisted living in FL and wanted to sell her house.  He drugged her and took her to FL without my knowledge.  With a “separate agent power of attorney”, he transferred all of Mother’s money under his and Mother’s name.

I snuck my Mother out of FL and back to her home.  He told me if I wanted the money for Mother, I’d have to take him to court.  "I am Mother's financial advisor", he said, so I had to apply for guardianship to get at Mother's funds for her to live on and also pay her bills.

Mother was afraid he’d take her again.

Instead of appointing me as Mother's guardian, the court s put a guardian third party guardian (a stranger) in place.

But my big question is, who guards the guardian?  So far, I can’t find the answer.  The guardian was not a protector but instead was a predator.

 

Grace Connors
July 17, 1921 – October 13, 2006
Member Mary Claire Connors' Mother 

Grace Connors graduated from West Pittston High School and was a member of Immaculate Conception Church, West Pittston, PA.

She was beautiful inside and out, devoted to her family and lived an active life, supporting political campaigns, pursuing a strong appreciation for the arts and attending to her civic duties. She was a coordinator for the Red Cross during the flood of 1972. She was an officer of the retired National Association of Federal Employees Union, Pittston Chapter.

Tragically, Mom suffered horribly and needlessly the last five years of her life under unlawful public guardianship through the County Orphans Court, which was in appeal when she died.

For over 2 ˝ years, I was not allowed to visit her at the nursing facility holding her captive. During this time, Mom, suffering from dementia, thought I deserted her and didn’t love her anymore. (Under my one on one care with unlimited medical/health resources, her dementia had improved and further improvement was expected until the unlawful guardianship claimed dominion over her completely thereby enforcing a slow but steady decline.)  By the time these brief and regulated visits were allowed, my Mom had deteriorated so much, I didn’t recognize her.

Because her family was her first priority, the court’s ordered isolation with only limited contact with her granddaughter and only in the office of the corporate nursing facility under supervision, was so very punitive to her.

The closer we got to appeal date, the quicker she declined as the alleged guardian, kept relating that Mom was dying for several months.   In spite of being told, allegedly by the so called guardian, that "your daughter is selling your house out from under you" (totally false), Mom only believed her for a day or so and then be right back to talking positively about me. Near the end, when the alleged public guardian  agency  was  becoming fearful of a wrongful death suit, I was offered the guardianship. 

Mom was a strong and determined woman but she couldn’t hold out long enough to regain her freedom and rights --- both unlawfully stolen from her. She held on as long as she could but in the end, her only release --- her freedom was gained by her death. She was dehydrated and starved to death after all of her teeth were removed; she died skin and bones after we were forbidden to give her water when she asked for it.

She was my best friend.   She was a loving wife and mother, a kind person, and followed the law and advice from AARP, attorneys, etc. by making a Durable Power of Atty. and designating me as her atty.-in-fact, which she never revoked.   She had Long Term Care Insurance, etc.  My father was a WWII veteran; they paid all their taxes and lived honest good lives instilling the same values in their children.

The court used no evidence -- only hearsay, to destroy and punish  her with  the orders that benefited  only corporate interests, and some "good ole boys and girls" at the expense of her, her legacy, her family and the taxpayers/citizens.   

I am compelled to speak, write and inform citizens of this atrocity in the hope that enough exposure of such heinous predatory hidden practices can be stopped by public outcry and action.  I will be forever affected by the long term trauma & loss that was unimaginable as an American citizen.  

In addition to her husband, James G. Connors, who died in 1986, she was preceded in death by her daughter, Patricia Connors, who also died in 1986. She is survived by her daughter, Mary Claire, and granddaughter, Keely, who miss her more every day until they meet again in spirit.

It is part of Mom's legacy to have her and our suffering and losses count for something.


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