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Mother of Member Oksana Hordijuk
Mother
made me promise I would see to it she could stay in her home until her
final day. But her court appointed guardian took away her comfort and
made her life miserable.
My Mother suffered from dementia.
Familiar surroundings give a person with dementia comfort, whereas
major changes make the person agitated and uncomfortable.
Mother always took great pride in her
decorating; she liked a European look, and had beautiful things from
her country, Ukraine, which was her heritage. She had a large Ukrainian
rug hanging in her living room; she loved that rug, and it was one of
many things that made her house her home.
The guardian decided that Mother’s
house was not modern enough --- she took down Mother’s prized Ukrainian
rug. She disposed of Mother’s treasured Ukranian dolls and much of her
furniture. Mother’s beautiful living room transformed into a stark
room, void of the precious knick knacks and personal items that made it
comfortable and familiar for her --- things that made her happy and gave
her pleasure.
The Guardian also decided to remodel
the kitchen. She had a new floor installed--- it wasn’t necessary nor
did my Mother want it, but what Mother wanted didn’t matter to the
Guardian. She replaced the curtains Mother lovingly hand sewed and with
ugly gray funeral parlor looking curtains. A new refrigerator, a
microwave, new vacuum, new windows and two air conditioners – all
unnecessary expenses. Mother hated air conditioning, it made her cough
and too cold. The Guardian used my Mother’s money to modernize Mother’s
home for the Guardian’s comfort and the comfort of her staff ---
not my Mother’s. Mother complained of the mess and the mental stress of
the construction.
Mother told me it wasn’t her home
anymore; and sadly, she was right. The
Guardian turned my Mother’s home from her castle to a prison.
The Guardian charged Mother $280 an
hour, over $46,000 for her fees in the first year of misery alone. She
treated Mother like a child, didn’t do her job, ran up exorbitant and
unnecessary expenses, and worse of all, despite my best efforts, I was
powerless to help her. My complaints and pleas for help fell on deaf
ears.

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